IDENTIFYING THE VAMPIRISTIC TYPE
I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet – Mahatma Gandhi
VAMPIRISTIC types are not merely suckers of energy, they are dumpers. Spending time in their presence will eventually make you tired, confused, emotionally flooded and unwell.
However, even if you remove yourself from their toxic presence, you may find it hard to heal. This is because the poisonous energy they’ve dumped into your field is not cleared quickly. It can take years to decord and return to a hygienic state. It can take all the energy and time you've got to give.
Moreover, going to certain healers may be counterproductive. Many New Age “healers” can be vampiristic in their own way, so be careful. When entering a clinic or therapy room, take note of the conditions and energy. Use your sense of smell. If it it does not feel right, excuse yourself and leave.
In order to get to the root of what vampirism is, certain accepted fallacies must be deconstructed, particularly about the nature of evil.
Let us understand, once and for all, that vamps are not mentally disturbed or deranged. In fact, there is no such thing as mental disorder. There can only be physical brain damage. Consequently, we understand that deviant actions are performed by deviant people. It is only because of intentional sleight-of-hand by psychiatrists that we think of mind and brain as the same thing. Nothing could be further from the truth, and nothing endangers the future of civilization more than the erosion of moral conscience.
The man who commits evil acts has not contracted some exotic disease. He is not the irresponsible victim of demonic possession, infection, or mind-altering substances treatable by drugs and physical therapy. His behavior is the direct result of his hedonism, deviant moral conscience and impaired self-image. So understand that the concept of “mental disorder” is a highly financed psychiatric fiction. Criminals are immoral and must be treated accordingly. Their deviant behavior is not to be excused or traced to spurious causes. The criminal is not to be medicated, he is to be punished. Similarly, the good and moral person is to be praised and rewarded.
Vamps are either amoral or immoral. We attract them when and if we lack the ability to judge moral actions. Today, fewer people understand what morality is and what moral actions look like. Fewer people are moral and those who apparently act morally may do so due to societal pressure and need for external approval. The truly moral individual is authentic and contemplative, rather than hedonic and worldly. He acts morally because of his own conscience, and because he understands, as Socrates said, that to harm another is to harm oneself.
Vamps have no such understanding or inclination. All their relationships are pathological. They never accept blame for the hurt they cause other people. Even if they pretend to care and value someone, it's soon clear how shallow and temporary their utterances and affectations are.
Their nature is difficult to detect for a while, because we treat them normally and fail to see their underlying pathology. Being moral, we tend to project our own virtues on everyone else, whether they deserve it or not. It takes a lifetime to change this habit and realize the havoc and disappointment it brings.
In time, however, we come to see something incredible about vamps and psychopaths. Although they certainly enjoy and value the experiences they have with us, they do not value us. In other words, we as people are not important to them at all, regardless of appearances. What is important to them is how they feel in our presence. Until we upgrade our insight to detect human insincerity and cunning, we are bound to be victimized time and again by such types.
When vamps look back over their lives, it is their experiences not people that are cherished. It's the complete reverse of the way empathic people operate. It's not their acquaintances they recall with affection. No, it's simply the experiences they've had with this or that person. This bizarre inhuman trait can be tested for.
A vamp will exit a situation or relationship as soon as things become even slightly complicated or sour. Hungry for continued good experiences, they don't stick around to assist acquaintances through hard times, and feel absolutely nothing for their sorrows, let downs and losses. Imagine them standing at your own graveside while you're laid to rest. They are the ones with the grin, looking for the coffee dispenser, inquiring when the party starts, impatiently checking their watch as every minute passes.
Vamps believe themselves to be entitled. They think they deserve not only physical possessions, but the time, care and servitude of others. They are arch-pragmatists who do not care for you as a person. On the contrary, they care for you as a resource and means to the ends of pleasure and security. In the beginning, and during the early stages of your relationship, they will say anything they think you want to hear. To win your interest and trust – to “cord” you – they come across as exceptionally attentive yet strangely elusive. Initially they attempt to “walk in rhythm” with you so that, like a cunning predator, they get to know your “scent” and “pace” – your personality type – as much as they are able. They expertly give the impression that you mean something to them, and that they want to know who you “really are.” This strategy works for them time and again. So understand that no one can or should know you through and through. You can’t know any other person completely, and no other person can know you completely. This is a romantic fiction for which most emotionally-prostituted humans fall. The person who protects your secrets and privacy of being, and who has this sense of personal privacy themselves, is an evolved human worthy of friendship.
Most vamps can be described as human chameleons. They are malleable and capable of morphing to suit whatever situation they find themselves in, or whatever person they choose to spend time with. This is why it is important to closely observe a vamp in the company of others. You will be surprised at how effortlessly they alter their personalities to suit the occasion. If they find themselves in the company of vegetarians, they’ll become vegetarians. The next day, when in the company of meat-eaters, they become meat-eaters. By mastering the art of “mirroring,” they endear their victims. All the while they inwardly roar with laughter at the fools they make of those duped into trusting their facade and act. This act of mirroring allows a vamp to set the stage for what they truly want, which is to dump their toxic energy through you. It's not the act of mirroring that is bad, we all do it, but the intention behind it. When you mirror the vamp, your intention is positive and truly friendly. When they mirror you, the intention is purely self-serving and fiendish.
You enjoy being liked by others. Better still, you enjoy and crave the company of those who make you feel good about yourself. And you will like a vampire, probably a lot at first. This is because they excel at making us feel good about ourselves and our accomplishments. So be sure to question what you think you need from others and be sure to question what associates desire from you. This process entails being aware that vamps first appear to give a great deal. Most parasites first inject something of their own anesthetizing toxins into your bloodstream before sucking your vital juices. It’s not much different with human parasites. When the honeymoon ends, you’ll find yourself feeling deeply indebted. This in turn leads you to empty your physical and emotional coffers into the lap of the vamp.
Vamps often make an appearance in your life when you’re not doing well emotionally or financially. They appear as welcome confederates when we find ourselves especially vulnerable and likely to be overly appreciative for slight acts of kindness. When we feel broken, alone and desperate, we tend to place helpful people on pedestals above us. This is attractive to vampiristic types who love to be adored for something they’re not. They adore bathing and shining in other people’s light. However, despite their show of concern, don't expect them to stick around tolerating your downers permanently. Once their little game ceases to edify and deliver what they want, their attitude toward you will dramatically reverse, and they'll be out the door, leaving your puzzled and numb.
Vamps rarely communicate clearly and rationally about their past. Regardless of how you attempt to probe, you will not be given many accurate details about their past friendships, romances and experiences. Their omissions in this regard are a major red flag. Their path has been so strewn with depravity and crime that they are forced to dissociate and radically edit their past, rearranging events to give inquirers a false impression. If you ask about their past experiences, they will feign forgetfulness, change the subject, or change their stories repeatedly, offering brief, edited, implausible and highly colored accounts. The past holds no substantial interest for them. This is true of all immoral criminals. Those who recount past experiences vividly, and who spend time reflecting positively on their life, are trustworthy and real. Those who avoid speaking about the past and who deride reflection are to be kept at an arm's distance. Do not fall for their plausible excuses "...I never dwell on the past, I focus on the present," or "...I live for today," and so on. This is the rhetoric of immoral episodics not moral people.
At first glance most vamps appear to be exceptionally effervescent, innocent, genuine and even evolved. They seem to be untouched by the problems that burden most people. This illusion occurs because sensation is mistaken for true emotion. Indeed, it can take a lifetime for us to discern the difference between sensationalists and emotional people. In any case, your welfare may depend on knowing the difference and being able to test for it. Test for emotion by speaking to the vamp about moving experiences in your life.
Watch the vamp in the presence of other people. Note their responses when they are swept into emotionally charged situations. If they remain indifferent, unmoved or exasperated it is not a good sign. Watch emotionally charged movies with them, and observe their responses, if any, when emotional scenes occur. (Note if their facial expressions match their words.) Additionally, discreetly ask them to describe their best sexual experience or spiritual moment. Decide whether the account is truthful or fictitious. For example, ask the vamp to give an opinion on whether the act of sex without love can be as satisfying and as sex with love. Note their answer. (Most vampiristic people believe that sex can be exhilarating even when love is absent. Indeed, for them love is always absent in every intimate experience.) Alternatively, pretend as if you personally believe sexual experiences to be better when love is absent and note their response. (Remain cautious whatever answer is offered, remembering that vamps excel at telling you what you want to hear. In light of this, carefully choose the moments in which you set tests for vampiristic types in your life.)
Remember that real people experience and display real emotions, including those emotions which society pretends to condemn, such as anger, hatred and violence. Long term observation of a vamp reveals a conspicuous absence of deep emotion. Most vamps are incapable of fighting for causes and being angry and passionate about injustice and tyranny. This is because they are extremely shallow and don’t have access to the deeper layers of life-force needed for persistent resistance and hard graft. The emotional tank is, so to speak, almost empty. Consequently, you will see that they live in a bubble and never act with passion. Don’t assume this facade of tranquility and saintliness to be a good sign. Real people have real scars and bullet holes.
The vamp's guise of grace and lightness also exists because they don’t care about the suffering that infests the world. This is because they are emotionally dissociated episodics. Consequently they do not watch the news as moral agents. Be sure to observe vampiristic people in your life to see whether they are truly and deeply moved emotionally by the plight of those who suffer around them. Recoiling from scenes of suffering and horror, casually conversing and intellectualizing about it, or showing no concern whatsoever are red flags.
It is possible that the vamp you know is a wounded entity. Paradoxically, this does not mean they have truly suffered extreme emotional pain. This is because the person who has known the absolute depths of despair is never inclined to hurt other people in any way for any reason. Consequently, for the most part, although others may have acted harmfully toward them, vamps are victims of self-harm. We are all capable of believing ourselves to be deprived and hurt, even when such is not the case, and criminal types believe this even more strongly than most. The emotional wounds of most vampiristic types are, more often than not, superficial.
What is more, a vamp is often in denial about their true nature and not necessarily conscious of inner conflict and hurt. Nevertheless, when consciously aware of their “wounds,” vamps convince themselves that they alone have suffered. Consequently they feel justified if and when they seduce, manipulate, con, deprive or otherwise hurt their victims. Like most psychopaths, the average vamp never grieves for the considerable suffering they inflict on people. As far as they are concerned, past hurt exonerates them of blame and even entitles them to act in a ruthless, self-serving manner.
Sadly, since good people are often compulsive fixers and healers, self-wounded vamps have no problem victimizing them. In the end, after being well and truly drained and poisoned, idealistic fixers realize that they have made no progress whatsoever. The vamp has merely upgraded their arsenal and become more experienced in deception. They vacate the wreckage of their making, and move on to the next gullible victim attracted by their facade of innocence and vulnerability.
Vamps falsely imagine that everyone’s attitude toward and outlook on existence is similar to theirs. They certainly do not believe that people intentionally act morally. Instead they prefer to believe that everyone around them is fake and hypocritical. It’s convenient for them to believe that most people are just as shallow and narcissistic as they are themselves. They adopt this attitude so they never need to accept blame. What is more, their detached icy stance allows them to expertly point out moral foibles in other people. We frequently mistake this ability as a sign that a vamp is insightful and super-moral. This is what the vamp intends us to think. Later we realize how misguided we were.
Vamps are incapable of accepting blame or taking responsibility. It does not matter if the incident or infraction in question is small or large. Moral people accept blame and experience remorse, whereas immoral people continually and irrationally blame others for their own mistakes and misdemeanors, and never feel guilty. Learn to test for this foible. To progress in life is to be able to admit fault and learn from mistakes. The vamp does neither.
Their lack of conscience and general irresponsibility means that vamps are lackadaisical and inept when it comes to performing simple chores and duties. They may even be inclined to shun domestic and professional obligations. Commonly, they seek praise without earning it, and tend to rely on others, leaving things to the last moment. When money comes their way, they spend it frivolously and without stint. Being narcissistic and hedonic, they are incapable of delaying gratification. Surface image is of paramount importance to them. It is their stock in trade. As we said, these are self-murdered people without soul or conscience. In a real sense, they are their own first victims.
During your time with them, vamps will in one way or another tell you who and what they are, but you must listen well and not dismiss the voice within that warns you that all is not right. To disregard your inner warnings means to later remonstrate with yourself, saying “I should have seen the truth” and “how could I have been so gullible?”
When and if you give to a person, how do they reciprocate? Do they rely on words or deeds to placate you? Or don’t you have boundaries? Perhaps you believe in unconditional love? If you do, expect to be victimized time and time again. There’s no saving you. In this life you need three things to survive and succeed: boundaries, boundaries and more boundaries.
Deliberately give a vampire a precious gift, and watch what they do with it in the coming weeks and months. (Emphasize that you consider the gift you’re giving to be precious to you for some reason, even if it isn’t.)
Finally, once you decide that an associate is vampiristic, don’t bother letting them know what you know. You have no obligation to them. Your obligation is toward yourself. Therefore, take steps to distance yourself from the vamp and move on. However, just before you make positive moves, the vamp’s energy and behavior will change toward you. This is because they are smarter than you imagine, and know when the game is up for them. Chances are they’ll move on to pastures new the moment they sense that you are beginning to see them for what they are. Before they exit, they go to great lengths to highlight your moral peccadilloes, should they exist. They attempt to denigrate you and make you feel inadequate in certain ways. If they are able to convince confederates of your bad behavior, so much the better. They exit with a wicked smile and the notion that they are perfectly justified. It is also likely that they will work overtime to find a replacement for you before moving on. The new victim will be told every lie in the book about you and the vamp’s relationship with you. This is why it is vitally important to avoid getting embroiled in the intrigues of the vamp. Drop them cold and move on.